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Thursday, 26 June 2008

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    Continuum
    By John Mayer
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    It's OK to be OK With Being Single

    Talking with one of my single ‘buddies’ they said, “What do you mean, you’re done?

    Are you never dating again?”

    I had just quoted the ending of a recent "resignation from dating" blog (I think I am giving up for a while) when I say, “...I am not closing myself off to a potential relationship, but I think I am done. Yeah, I said it. That's it; I'm done.”

    Well no, I explain, it’s not that I am NEVER dating again - I have simply resolved that I am not living my life with this sense of something missing, some unfinished business that I keep thinking I have to get back to, this item on the back-burner that never has been successful, and so I am going to rid myself of feeling like I have to be pursuing the next possible relationship all the time and finally going to live my life content for who I am and content with being single.

    It is liberating, (Thanks Ms Single Mama, for the comment) and I don’t go around with this hanging sense of there is one more thing I have to do.  It’s ok to be single and its ok to be ok with it!  So with all due respect, quit trying to make all of us 'singles' feel like we are the foreigners or the aliens in a couple driven world….. ok?

Wednesday, 25 June 2008

  • Falls of Alta Mons

    camping trip006...........The hike on Sunday morning was interesting and tiring. I hadn't taken a two hour hike in a while and I could tell. Once we made it up the side of the mountain and reached the falls though, it was so worth it. But you know what was even more worth it? I didn't want to climb the rest of the rocks to reach the actual falls once we got that far.... I could see it, take a picture, so that was enough for me. The kids, my sister and her husband all moved on up the rocks and made their way to sit right at the foot of the falls itself. Well of course, they continued to "encourage" me to come on the rest of the way; and sincerely and tiredly I was content with how far I had made it... so I wasn't going any further. Then my brother-in-law said, Come on, Jason and I will help you. (Jason is my son) Jason then continued the banter, Come on mom... come on... as he came back down the rocks to take my hand, "I came passed bees for you, mom, you have to come." You know, that statement may not bring tears to your eyes, or move you in any way as you read this; but that statement from my thirteen year old son meant the world to me. He hates bees :) so I knew that he truly wanted me to join him. camping trip015

     Sometimes I doubt the relationship, the bond my son and I have... I don't give it the credit that it's due. I let myself "worry" that I am losing my baby boy that wouldn't let me go each morning in the cafeteria of his kindergarten because he had to have.... "one more kiss mommy, just one more kiss." Those days are gone with this thirteen year old changing every day; he is already taller than me! He is becoming his own person, and my influence, I can only pray, has taken root and somehow been a good one over the years........

    And guess what? I did join him. I took his hand and let him and my brother-in-law help me the rest of the way up the rocks where I took these shots. 

    Thanks Jason, for braving the "bees" to help me up the rocks, a little bit farther into your world that day, to see it from where you stood, to take a chance and risk the slip on the rocks, just to be a little closer to you. It was what I needed to hear, for what I needed to do for that moment. And sure I will never forget the falls; but I will also never forget the sound of my son's words and the sincere thrill of taking  that chance.

    Such is life, we don't forget the 'falls' - they happen to all of us... but nothing can replace the thrill of taking that chance.... at something new...... in the life of  being single.......

    read more.....camping trip012 http://kitkat4real.blogspot.com/
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